This year is different.
I’m a newfound (and intense) Formula 1 fanatic. I’m more patient and less emotionally reactive than ever before. I’m even inching towards my final form as a dreaded ‘morning person.’
I know, “new blog, who dis?”
It’s all because I’ve been listening deeply. I’m ashamed to admit that’s a new skill I’ve honed.
This practice allows me to hear another’s truth. It encourages me to abandon my preconceived notions. I’m occupied less by formulating my own response, and I’m instead immersed in co-occurring realities.
I focus less on what’s “correct”, and accept that most are simply looking for empathy and understanding. I’ve stopped trying to change people (and their opinions). The relief is most freeing.
This keeps me committed to a lifetime of learning. No matter if gleaned from a casual conversation, overheard on a podcast, or observed in passing… new data is ever-flowing.
It’s a humbling experience, this life; but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Continue reading for my top food(s) for thought. Just like your favorite burger joint, this one is gonna be quick and shameless.
1. Podcast: On Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert, psychologist Daniel Goleman shares a few strategies to help gain emotional resilience. He explains the simple act of naming an emotion redirects impulses from our emotional circuits to our language processors.
Instead of allowing an entire day’s worth of frustration build us into a glass case of emotion, let’s call it what it is.
Whether noted in a journal or shared with a fellow human being; a simple “I’m feeling embarrassed” or “I’m feeling defeated” goes a long way.
When boiled down to the single descriptor, our big emotions become less elusive and much easier to manage.
2. Non-Fiction book: Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant. In this work of art, the organizational psychologist extraordinaire imparts wisdom that requires no further explanation:
“If knowledge is power, knowing what we don’t know is wisdom.”
“It’s a sign of wisdom to avoid believing every thought that enters your mind. It’s a mark of emotional intelligence to avoid internalizing every feeling that enters your heart.”
3. Docuseries: Last Chance U: Basketball. I’m late to this series, but there’s no beating Coach Mosley and the East LA Huskies. Well, that is unless you’re an untimely pandemic that obliterates their chances of winning a hard-earned championship.
In the magic of this season, we fall in love with Deshaun Highler, Joe Hampton, and KJ Allen. Not only for their skill, but for their soul.
I found myself in tears, feverishly researching “where is Joe Hampton now?!” midway through the season.
This is one you’ll have to watch. And if you don’t trust me, trust the 100% Rotten Tomatoes rating!
I’ll share some Coach Mosley insight until then: “[people] need love the most when they deserve it the least.” #123FAMILY 😭
4. A Moment of Clarity: Pure happiness is often within arm’s reach; but, only if we are willing to recognize it.
I had this pure, natural realization a few weeks ago. I was holding my nephew’s hand, cuddled up on a bean bag, and watching Toy Story 4. His laugh and his cuddles brought me this happiness far greater than anything I’ve experienced in years. I forgot ‘happy’ could be this easy.
I’d realized I’ve been living outside of the present for so long, that I had been taking moments like this for granted. No more.
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“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.”Bill Gates